Friday, February 26, 2016

#ShareTheLoad - Times then and now

Reading the statistic report shared by Ariel, I see myself falling in the 76% category earlier when I too used to believe that not sharing laundry duties at home still makes me an ideal husband, father and man but now my perspective towards my duties has changed. I feel that I belong to the 25% category where I believe that men should wash their own clothes and share responsibilities with their wife.

A woman is an epitome of beauty, love and care and making her responsible for almost everything at home is not fair. Women work 24/7 and complete all the duties of the house without complaining but there can be atleast one responsibility we can share with our wives and that's the duty of sharing the laundry work. Ariel's ShareTheLoad campaign makes it clear that men can easily operate the washing machine and be repsonsible to get their clothes washed at home daily. The job is simple and it doesn't even require supervision and while our wives get the food cooked and take care of our children, we can ourselves get our clothes ready and share the burden of responsibilities.

Earlier when washing machines weren't launched, women used to work too hard to get their laundry work done. They used to collect vessels of water and washing the clothes used to be a huge burden for them. We had a family of 4 people and when we could not afford a washing machine, I used to see my wife struggle to wash the clothes as there used to be over 40-50 clothes to wash daily and since we had water shortage problems too, she used to struggle a lot to save water. She had to not only wash the clothes but dry them and iron them daily which was trouble some for her.

Now when we have 2 washing machines at home, it is easier for me to take over the laundry responsibility and also make my son wash his own school clothes and socks. It is time up that I teach my son too to help his mother in the laundry work and share the responsibilities so that he too behaves the same way with his wife. I need to be an ideal husband and father now so that my children too learn from me and behave the same way with their spouses. Laundry work is no longer only a woman's responsibility and if men like us come forward and help our wives today, our future generation too will change their views. I am sharing the load today, will you join me?

I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.

ShareTheLoad - It's time we change our perspective

I checked the new advertisement of Ariel and it brought tears to my eyes when I saw the father thinking about the work his daughter does for the family and thinks of sharing this responsibility with his wife. I am a father myself and when I used to look at my wife doing the house chores, I used to feel happy that she is performing her duties of a mother, wife and daughter so well. I never realized that it is not only her responsibility to perform the household duties and felt that every women has a duty to look after the house and the man's responsibility is to work and bring in money. It was not that I felt I am superior to women but it happens in every family that the woman takes care of the family while a man doesn't and his responsibility is only to work and rest at home. It was my view as I had never seen my mother as she passed away when I was 6 and in case of my sister, she was working very hard  in the office as well as at home. I has been happening in almost every house but it's time up that we change our view.

It took me time to realize my wife's hard work and it was when my daughter grew big and she started taking care of the housework. I used to stop her from doing the housework and tell her to study but she used to insist on doing it. One day when I told her to not cook the food and make her mom cook the food as it is her responsibility, she spoke back and answered "It's not only my mom's responsibility dad. It's everyone's responsibility. Whether it's a woman or man, it doesn't matter. Mom works very hard everyday and today is Mother's Day. I want this day to be special for her. After all, when I'll get married, it will be my responsibility to take care of all the chores of the house and may be there won't be anyone to help me then and my daughter would be the person to share my responsibilities." Hearing her, I was taken aback and it was then I changed my view thinking that it is not only a women's responsibility to do all the house chores and I being a man also need to share responsibilities of my house and contribute my time to my household while I am not working.

I am glad that Ariel has come up with a #ShareTheLoad campaign and it makes us husbands also to get a change their viewpoint and share atleast the laundry responsibility. The new washing machine will surely bring in a positive change.

I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.